ben replied: "its slighty unethical as you are in a position of trust. we can be horrible one minute then nice the next."
Tiger Lily replied: "It sounds like you just want to be needed, "I want to be his rock & his happiness, & be there for him as much as i can." You need to figure out where you confused love with being needed. Did one of your parents abandon you or are your parents divorced? Love is a mutual thing, not just being, "his rock & his happiness."
You have NO idea what you are getting yourself into. You are talking more like an enabler and NOT girlfriend material. You have to realize you CAN'T fix him and he isn't going to get better... it just gets worse with age. What will you do when you ARE his rock and happiness and you have to break up with him. Because you wanted to be, "his rock & his happiness," he is now completely dependent upon you for EVERYTHING.
He has to be his own rock and happiness to be in a good, stable relationship. This guy has a lot to work on before he should be dating anyone. He isn't capable of it, EVEN after two years. You have heard, "if you don't love yourself first, you can't love anyone else," well it's true!
Do what you like, but you don't know what you are getting into."
I am a 19 year old girl, going out with a 37 year old guy. Am i being stupid? I worked in a care home for around 6months as a Support Worker for mentally ill people. Our mission statement was to care & support our residents to "move on" & to help them live day to day lives.
The residents are in the home because they've either just come from another care home, come straight from hospital & some prison. There are 6 guys in there. Some of them still not all there.. & a few stable.
During my period of working there.. I got on really well with this one guy, we couldnt keep our eyes off eachother. I remained proffesional through out. He suffers from Schizophrenia & is on medication (clozapine etc) which controls this. He has been clear for two years & has been near enough on the straight & narrow.. Meaning no drugs, violance etc. Iv read through his history & there is nothing to do with assult towards woman, or anything sexual!!
Anyway to the point, i recently left around Feb, & kinda got his number through the phone book. I text him & he replied, we started seeing eachother & kept it a secret from everyone apart from my close friends.
We then stopped due to him being paranoid about one of the guys i worked with in the home, he thought there was something going on between us & he ended the whole meeting up thing. Followed by some very nasty drunken texts!
Now i no what ur thinking,, This girl is mad.. But am i really? Can i not see what is actually going on here because i'm too young to really understand the consequences .. Or am i fully aware & could this really work?
Carrying on with the story he ignored me for a whole month, no contact no replies to my texts or calls. NOTHING..
Until i managed to bring him round & make him realise that i wanted it to work.. Anyway we are now together & have been for only a week. & things are perfect..
I'm just a bit worried i'm not seeing sence & i'm just wrapped in the whole exitement of the forbidden love thing.
Thanks for reading all of this!! Hopefully i'll get some replies.
Wow, that was a shock to see all ur replies in such short time!!
Jasper.. Ur story sounds pretty serious. & i have heard a few like it but i guess until it happens to me i'm just going to hope for the best..
His told me that his getting quite attatched already, which is good as it makes me feel wanted by him but i do worry about it in the long run.. I don't think he would ever be violant towards me due to me knowing the majority of his past as it's written all down on paper. His on a section 41 so his still on court orders & things like that, for example he has to be back to the home before 4am.. , which i can deal with! I can accept most things that come our way but i just hope i'm being sensible here & not looking past the consequences of it.
To the lady that is in the same situation as me, (sorry i can't remember the name) i didn't expect anyone else to be in the same situ, kinda reliefed i'm not the only one i feel a bit embarassed about the whole thing.
Sarah, thanks for ur message & i hope i am strong enough to cope. I'm just worried for his sake because i'm a 19 year old girl thats always out with the girls & guys, doing typical things 19 year olds do! & i have a bad feeling his going to get really paranoid about this no matter how much i try to make him feel better on the situation.
Sarah, he does come across a tad controling already.. Just by the little things he say's such as "it's like theres 3 of us on a date, me u & ur phone" lol! Which yes is amusing, but does that sound a bit controling to u or is he just in need of reasurance that i can be trusted?
This is going to be alot of hard work!! Thanks so much for all ur replies i didn't think i'd get any!
I totally agree with who ever said i shouldnt be getting myself into these situations, but unfortunatly u can't help who u fall for. I just had to like the complicated one.. lol.
Enchanted replied: "Nothing wrong with it... I prefer older men."
"That" Girl replied: "Put it this way:
If your too afraid of what your family will think, then you shouldn't go through with it."
ally replied: "i wouldnt say theres anything wrong with it if u really love the dude but i am a little suprised anyways but if u like older men that ur choice so good luck with ur realtionship"
Jasper replied: "My dad is like the guys in the home you worked in. He went through seven years without violence after he slapped my mom and she left him for a year. When he did snap, he tried to kill her. He is now in prison for attempted murder on someone else. If he has not become a Christian, he has not changed and has tendencies to do whatever got him there in the first place. I think deep down you know that. I think you need to change your surroundings. A nineteeen year old girl doesn't belong in a place like that. I'm sorry to be blunt. I'm just trying to look out for you."
LiL_brat replied: "i dont see anything wrong with u wanting things to work with a 39 yr old. age is just a number.."
Gemma replied: "I am in exactly the same position as you. I am 19 and my boyfriend is 37, seperated from his wife and 2 kids.....and i have never been happier. Theres nothing wrong with it at all babes. We have been together for nearly 11 months now and everything is perfect. Just enjoy yourself and if it feels right then it probably is."
xx rose xx replied: "i think that he might be starting to control you he ignored you you went running to him, if he is not violent towards woman that's great but there is mental abuse and that can be just as painful as physical abuse, saying that everyone deserves a chance maybe he is afraid of getting hurt. that's why he ignored you. take things slow and if you feel like the relationship is getting out of hand or if he hurts you in anyway then leave him. you sound like a wise girl trust your instincts hun
best of luck x
the age gap isnt really a big deal"
Sunshine replied: "There's nothing wrong in dating an older guy who REALLY LOVES you. I like guys older than me but not more than 10years age difference.Good luck to you loll!"
Pam R replied: "He is too old. Both of your ideas on life and things you want to do will eventually cause problems."
Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♥Sarah♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ replied: "I don't think age is the issue at all here. You are both adults and both seem safe at the moment.
This man needs someone strong enough to cope with his mental health disorder and if you think that you fit the job and are not going to let him down, then you are the right one for him.
If it's too much for you, you will have to let him down now rather than over a long period of time. You will be doing both of you a favour.
People with this kind of baggage need love, too, but they also need a rock to lean on when they get stressed and someone to be understanding."
sandra t replied: "just think when your 50 he will be nearly 70 not my cup of tea...i do wish you well though..."
Pyro replied: "Well..I dont wanna be mean...but yes..you are.Greatly older men like that really never get with a really young girl for love.So if u can tolerate cheating then no prob.If u cant get out now...but if he's rich get a nice gift then get out lol"
Glen L replied: "Perhaps I am prejudice because my girlfriend of six years is 19 years younger than me. I have been pursued by many younger women and my girlfriend before her was 19. When you find that you have goals and the men your own age do not then what choice do you have? When you want children but the men your age are not in a position to support them financially or emotionally where can you turn. When the men your own age work at menial jobs sending all of their money to support one or more illigitimat children and can not really afford to take you on a good date why would you bother.
It is common for young women to look around themselves at men their age playing on a x-box, hanging out, performing poorly at school, failing to set goals for themselves, being selfish in relationships and even performing poorly in sex because of it.
If your older man is good, good to you and you are happy together then value him and keep him happy. I am an older man, a lot older than yours and getting older all the time but I am still hit on almost every day by women so much younger than myself that it frightens me. Just today the teller at my bank hit on me and I think she is about 20.
Don't be jealous of your man because that will eventually destroy the relationship. Keep him by keeping him happy, tell him you love him, give him kisses daily and all the sex he can handle!"
miss inlove replied: "your not stupid. the thing is it might not be the smartest thing either. but if you believe that this guys is your one true love and you want to spend the rest of your life together then go ahead!"

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